Monthly Archives: September 2010

3 Keys To Living A Happier Life Using NLP

Everyone has problems, and that’s pretty normal. What’s NOT normal is when your problems get so big that they get in the way of everything — your work, your family, your friends, and your own health and well-being. When this happens, know that NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) can help you get over your problems and live a happier life.

#1 – Get Rid Of Your Worries And Move!

Most of our problems are rooted in our fears. Sometimes we’re so afraid of some things that we tend to avoid them automatically, resulting in problems. For instance, some of us are so afraid of failure that we end up stuck in a comfort zone. And in a constantly-changing world, that’s never a good thing!

I often tell people that FEAR is nothing more than False Expectations Appearing Real. 90% of the things you worry about never really happen anyway. So don’t let your worries get in the way — get moving!

#2 – Stop Thinking About The Past And Plan Your Future!

All of us have done things in the past that we’re not proud of. Or there may have been some bad incidents in the past that still bother you today. It’s okay to look back and realize how sad or silly times were — but it’s never good to dwell on the past. The rest of the world will just pass you by that way!

You want a happy ending to your life, right? Then stop focusing on the sad parts of the story — instead, start writing your future. Write your own happy ending. It’s always easier when you know the ending!

#3 – Get A Life Coach!

The third NLP key to a happier life is getting a life coach. These professionals are NLP experts who can zero in on your problems — and their underlying causes — better than even you can. Some life coaches take a more general problem-solving approach by talking to audiences, while some coaches specialize in one-on-one coaching.

Getting a life coach is a great way to live a happier life simply because most of our problems have underlying causes, and most of us aren’t even aware of these causes to begin with. A life coach can accurately identify what’s bothering you, and give effective life solutions.

How to Change Limiting Beliefs

Beliefs are feelings of certainty surrounding your experience of the world. People’s beliefs shape how they experience the world. If someone believes something that stops them from wanting to do the things they want to do its generally called a limiting belief.

People can have limiting beliefs about various things but they’re generally able yourself. Someone may believe they’re not worthy of being loved, another person might think they aren’t intelligent and another person might believe they’re bad at completing tasks.

What ever your limiting belief is, there is a simple formula for changing it. This proven strategy is below in 5 easy to follow steps, so get a pen, write down your answers and start creating unlimited success.

1. Imagine that you’ve already changed the limiting belief, what does it allow you to do? (write down answer)

2. What will you be missing out on if you don’t change this limiting belief?

3. If you were to create a new, empowering belief in place of the limiting belief, what would it be?

4. Why are you committed to making this change and no longer allow your limiting beliefs to hold you back?

5. What are you going to do with your new unlimited success?

Remember, the most important part of this exercise is the fact that you’re writing it down. By doing that you’re committing to breaking your limiting beliefs and flourishing.

Let me know how this goes!

David Vanderfluit
The Confidence Coach

The Great Tony Robbins On Life Coaching

Came across this old video of the man himself, Anthony Robbins.

Tony Robbins is the first thing that comes to the mind of most people when you mention either motivational speaker or life coach.

Whether it’s building confidence or improving your life in other areas Tony Robbins is the expert.

Check it out:

David Vanderfluit,

Build Your Confidence Now

I was just thinking about confidence and how you can obtain it, then I realised I was making the same mistake that lots of people make. Confidence is not a thing, it’s not something you can obtain and once you have it you can hold onto it, rather it’s something that you give yourself every.

I believed I was insecure and shy once too, it would be my primary excuse for not connecting greater with people, and it would hold me back from taking more enjoyment from life. The most enlightening change that took place was never something huge at all it was This:

I was talking with a friend, someone who had known me for a while, we were talking about how we felt about ourselves. I told her that I didn’t like that I was shy, and quiet and that I wanted to be confident.

This person, just laughed and said, “Oh, I didn’t think you were shy at all, I thought you were confident and funny and really sure of yourself.”

I was a little shocked, because I’d genuinely believed that I was shy, just like you might, but then I realised something; The only difference between me feeling insecure, and me feeling really confident was my own decision about which one I was.

You see, we don’t remind ourselves enough that it’s all in our head. You decide what way you want to believe about yourself. So why make decisions that are going to make you think you’re small.

I decided that I was confident, and that’s all it took.

What are you going to decide right now as you sit there reading this? Maybe you’ll decide that you’re proud of yourself, maybe you’ll decide that you’ve made the best choices you could at the time, maybe you’ll decide you can be confident too. :-D

David Vanderfluit,