Hey!
Someone told me the other day that they were sick of feeling lonely and that they wanted a partner. I think that it’s a feeling everybody has either felt at some point, or even experiences on a regular basis. It just means that you’re not connecting with others at a core level.
“So what’s your perfect partner look like?” I asked them.
“I don’t know.” They said.
“What does your perfect partner sound like?”
“I haven’t thought of that.”
“What does it feel like when you’re around them?”
“I haven’t thought about that either.”
I continued by explaining to them that we go through life finding things we’re looking for. Having the experiences that we focus on. Whether it’s noticing the people with the same shirt as you, or seeing a mobile phone you like because you’ve been thinking about buying one of those.
Try this, think about all the things that are yellow, turn around and look behind you and notice all the things that are yellow. – Done that? Now, without turning around, try and think of 5 things behind you that are blue. It’s hard isn’t it? That’s because you weren’t looking for blue things, you were looking for yellow. It’s the same in life, if you don’t know what your perfect partner looks, sounds and feels like, it’s going to be alot harder to find them!
Try this, write down 5 things that your perfect partner must have, things that you won’t budge on; they can be about the way they look, their personality, the way you feel around them. Then write down 5 things that you’d like them to have, not absolutely necessary but things that would be preferred. Then write down 5 things that they could or couldn’t have, things that aren’t a big deal but it’d be a plus if they did have them.
Do this now from the chair you’re sitting in and I promise it’ll be much easier to find that perfect someone.
Have fun!
David Vanderfluit,