I was just thinking about confidence and how you can obtain it, then I realised I was making the same mistake that lots of people make. Confidence is not a thing, it’s not something you can obtain and once you have it you can hold onto it, rather it’s something that you give yourself every.
I believed I was insecure and shy once too, it would be my primary excuse for not connecting greater with people, and it would hold me back from taking more enjoyment from life. The most enlightening change that took place was never something huge at all it was This:
I was talking with a friend, someone who had known me for a while, we were talking about how we felt about ourselves. I told her that I didn’t like that I was shy, and quiet and that I wanted to be confident.
This person, just laughed and said, “Oh, I didn’t think you were shy at all, I thought you were confident and funny and really sure of yourself.”
I was a little shocked, because I’d genuinely believed that I was shy, just like you might, but then I realised something; The only difference between me feeling insecure, and me feeling really confident was my own decision about which one I was.
You see, we don’t remind ourselves enough that it’s all in our head. You decide what way you want to believe about yourself. So why make decisions that are going to make you think you’re small.
I decided that I was confident, and that’s all it took.
What are you going to decide right now as you sit there reading this? Maybe you’ll decide that you’re proud of yourself, maybe you’ll decide that you’ve made the best choices you could at the time, maybe you’ll decide you can be confident too. 
David Vanderfluit,